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Patience

  Once, the Prophet () passed by a grave and saw a woman weeping beside the grave of her son. He told her to fear Allah and be patient. Due to the severity of sadness she could not recognize the Prophet () and said, “Go away, for you have not been afflicted with a calamity like mine.” Then she was informed that he was the Prophet (ﷺ). So she went to the house of the Prophet () and said to him, “I did not recognize you. Forgive me.” The Prophet () said:

« إِنَّمَا الصَّبْرُ عِنْدَ الصَّدْمَةِ الأُولَى»

Translation: “Verily, the patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.” [Bukhari & Muslim] It means that a man should show patience when the calamity has befallen him; at a later stage the patience takes place automatically. When Hadrat Ammar (Radhi Allahu Anhu), his father (Radhi Allahu Anhu) and mother (Radhi Allahu Anha) embraced Islam, the infidels troubled them a lot. Once the Prophet () passed by them and said:

«صَبْراً یا آلَ یاسِرٍ، فَاِنَّ مَوْعِدَکُمْ الجنّۃُ» [الحاکم]

Translation: “Patience, O family of Yasir! Your meeting-place will be Paradise.” [Al-Hakim] They founded an everlasting example of patience; Hadrat Yasir (Radhi Allahu Anhu) and Hadrat Sumaiya (Radhi Allahu Anha) got martyred due to atrocities of the infidels while Hadrat Ammar (Radhi Allahu Anhu) got martyred while fighting in a jihad. When in calamity, one should exhibit patience and be pleased with Allah’s decision; avoid undue mourning and disappointment. Similarly, out of sadness one should avoid deeds that are anti-Shari’ah; he should not utter words that are undue and improper. Allah Almighty says:

« يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اسْتَعِينُوا بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلاةِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ (153)» [البقرة:153]

Translation of Meaning: “O ye who believe! Seek help in steadfastness and prayer. Lo! Allah is with the steadfast.” [Al-Baqarah:153] Keeping patience is a characteristic of the prophets: About patience we have illuminating examples of the prophets. None, except them, have suffered so many difficulties and so happily. In the way of Allah, they bore the hardships of hunger and thirst but did not move from their stands. They suffered abuses and taunting by people; they were ridiculed publically but they remained patient. Some of the Prophets (ﷺ) were split with the saw. They got beaten to the extent of excess bleeding. But due to having patience, they did not utter even a single word against them. Instead of cursing, they prayed for their ignorant people to be guided. Allah says describing this characteristic of the prophets:

« وَإِسْمَاعِيلَ وَإِدْرِيسَ وَذَا الْكِفْلِ كُلٌّ مِنْ الصَّابِرِينَ (85) وَأَدْخَلْنَاهُمْ فِي رَحْمَتِنَا إِنَّهُمْ مِنْ الصَّالِحِينَ (86)  » [الأنبياء : 85-86]

Translation of Meaning: “And (mention) Ishmael, and Idris, and Dhu al-Kifl. All were of the steadfast. And We brought them in unto Our mercy. Lo! They are among the righteous.” [Al-Anbiya’a:85-86] At another place He says:

« فَاصْبِرْ كَمَا صَبَرَ أُوْلُوا الْعَزْمِ مِنْ الرُّسُلِ  » [الأحقاف:35]

Translation of Meaning: “Then have patience (O Muhammad) even as the stout of heart among the messengers (of old) had patience.” [Al-Ahqaf:35]   Among the messengers with stout heart are Nooh, Ibrahim, Moosa, Eisa and Muhammad (may peace be upon them all). Allah says:

« وَلَقَدْ كُذِّبَتْ رُسُلٌ مِنْ قَبْلِكَ فَصَبَرُوا عَلَى مَا كُذِّبُوا وَأُوذُوا حَتَّى أَتَاهُمْ نَصْرُنَا وَلا مُبَدِّلَ لِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ وَلَقَدْ جَاءَكَ مِنْ نَبَإِ الْمُرْسَلِينَ (34)»  [الأنعام: 34]

Translation of Meaning: “Messengers indeed have been denied before thee, and they were patient under the denial and the persecution till Our succour reached them.” [al-An’am: 34] Mentioning Hadrat Ayyub (Alaihis Salam) Allah says:

« إِنَّا وَجَدْنَاهُ صَابِراً نِعْمَ الْعَبْدُ إِنَّهُ أَوَّابٌ (44)» [ص:44]

Translation of Meaning: “Lo! We found him steadfast, how excellent a slave! Lo! he was ever turning in repentance (to his Lord).” [Saad:44]   Before being tested, Hadrat Ayyub (Alaihis Salam) had a big family and owned riches. But when Allah (Ta’ala) tested him all his wealth was wasted and the family abandoned him. It was only his wife who remained with him. For years he was tested through different illnesses but never did he utter a word of complaint against Allah. Instead, he always praised Allah (Ta’ala) and thanked Him. Such a great example of patience and restraint will work as a light for people. Allah Almighty removed all his troubles due to his patience. He gave him a better handsomeness than the earlier, gave him pious children and wealth. Allah (Ta’ala) says:

« وَوَهَبْنَا لَهُ أَهْلَهُ وَمِثْلَهُمْ مَعَهُمْ رَحْمَةً مِنَّا وَذِكْرَى لأُوْلِي الأَلْبَابِ (43)» [ص:43]

Translation of Meaning: “And We bestowed on him (again) his household and therewith the like thereof, a mercy from Us, and a memorial for men of understanding.” [Saad:43] Virtue of patience: Allah (Ta’ala) has promised great rewards and forgiveness for the patient. He said:

« وَبَشِّرْ الصَّابِرِينَ (155) الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ قَالُوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ (156) أُوْلَئِكَ عَلَيْهِمْ صَلَوَاتٌ مِنْ رَبِّهِمْ وَرَحْمَةٌ وَأُوْلَئِكَ هُمْ الْمُهْتَدُونَ (157)» [البقرة : 155-157]

Translation of Meaning: “And give glad tidings to the steadfast, Who say, when a misfortune striketh them: Lo! We are Allah’s and lo! unto Him we are returning. Such are they on whom are blessings from their Lord, and mercy. Such are the rightly guided.” [Al-Baqarah:155-157] At another place He said:

« إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى الصَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُمْ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ (10) » [الزمر:10]

Translation of Meaning: “Verily the steadfast will be paid their wages without stint.” [Az-Zumar:10] The Prophet () said:

«وَمَا أُعْطِيَ أَحَدٌ عَطَاءً خَيْرًا وَأَوْسَعَ مِنَ الصَّبْرِ » [متفق علیہ]

Translation of Meaning: “Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.” [Bukhari & Muslim]   In another hadith, Allah’s Messenger () said:

«مَا يُصِيبُ الْمُسْلِمَ مِنْ نَصَبٍ ، وَلاَ وَصَبٍ ، وَلاَ هَمٍّ ، وَلاَ حُزْنٍ ، وَلاَ أَذًى ، وَلاَ غَمٍّ حَتَّى الشَّوْكَةِ يُشَاكُهَا إِلاَّ كَفَّرَ اللَّهُ بِهَا مِنْ خَطَايَاهُ» [متفق علیہ]

Translation: “For every misfortune, illness, anxiety, grief, or hurt that afflicts a Muslim -even the hurt caused by the pricking of a thorn – Allah (Ta’ala) removes some of his sins.” [Bukhari & Muslim]   Various are shapes and occasions of patience: Abiding by Allah’s commandment and His obedience require firmness of resolve and struggle. If a man does not have patience, it will be a difficult task for him to obey Allah (Ta’ala). Without patience, one cannot efficiently carry out the obligations imposed by Allah. Allah (Ta’ala) says addressing His Prophet ():

« وَاصْبِرْ نَفْسَكَ مَعَ الَّذِينَ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُمْ بِالْغَدَاةِ وَالْعَشِيِّ يُرِيدُونَ وَجْهَهُ (28)» [الكهف:28]

Translation of Meaning: “Restrain thyself along with those who cry unto their Lord at morn and evening, seeking His Countenance.” [Al-Kahf:28]   At another place Allah (Ta’ala) says:

« وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا (132) » [طه: 132]

Translation of Meaning: “And enjoin upon thy people worship, and be constant therein.” [Taha: 132]   * One does not commit disobedience spontaneously; rather the Satan first persuades him to do it and presents the evil in a beautified from before him. At this time, if a man does not have patience, he slips. It is but patience and firmness that stops one from committing sins and makes him firm on the religion of Allah. This firmness and steadfastness, is in fact, patience. The Messenger of Allah () said, Translation of Meaning: “The best mujahid are those who give up all what Allah has forbidden. And the best form of jihad is a jihad against one’s nafs.” [Tabrani]   * Keeping patience in illness is also determination. When a man suffers from an illness he/she should fight it courageously, deem it a test by Allah (Ta’ala) and avoid complaining or being disappointed. The Prophet () said:

«مَنْ أُصِيبَ بِمُصِيبَةٍ فِي مَالِهِ، أَوْ جَسَدِهِ فَكَتَمَها فَلَمْ يَشْكُها إِلَى النَّاسِ كَانَ حَقًّا عَلَى اللَّهِ أَنْ يَغْفِرَ لَهُ» [طبراني]

Translation: “Whoever suffers a calamity in his life or wealth, hides it and does not complain to people, it is a right on Allah to forgive him.” [Tabrani]   Keeping patience at the time of illness will make him deserve entry into the Paradise. Hadrat Umm-e-Zufar (Radhi Allahu Anha) was inflicted with epilepsy. She came to the Prophet () requesting him to pray for her health. The Prophet () said to her, “If you wish, be patient and you will have (enter) Paradise; and if you wish, I will invoke Allah to cure you.” She said, “I will remain patient.” [Bukhari & Muslim]   In a Qudsi Hadith Allah (Ta’ala) says:

«إِذَا ابْتَلَيْتُ عَبْدِي بِحَبِيبَتَيْهِ فَصَبَرَ عَوَّضْتُهُ مِنْهُمَا الْجَنَّةَ يُرِيدُ عَيْنَيْهِ» [بخاري]

Translation: “If I deprive my slave of his two beloved things (i.e. his eyes) and he remains patient, I will let him enter Paradise in compensation for them.’” [Bukhari]   * The Reward for keeping patience in calamity is Paradise: The Prophet () said that Allah says:

«ما لِعَبدي المؤمنِ عِندي جزاءٌ ، إذا قَبضتُ صَفِيهُ مِن أهلِ الدُّنيا ثُمَّ احْتَسَبَهُ إِلاَّ الْجَنَّةُ»  [بخاري]

Translation: “I have nothing to give but Paradise as a reward to my believer slave, who, if I cause his dear friend (or relative) to die, remains patient (and hopes for Allah’s Reward).” [Bukhari]   Hadrat Ali (Radhi Allahu Anhu) said, “If you are patient with Allah’s decision, He rewards you. And if you mourn, you will be sinning.”   * It is the way of the Prophet (ﷺ) to be patient in financial hardships. The conditions of all are not the same. Similarly, the situations of a certain individual change with the passage of the time. Therefore, it is the quality of a Muslim to thank Allah in financial well-being and have patience when facing financial constraints and be patient with Allah’s decision. In poverty, one should never become disappointed, idle or blaming, nor should he blame Allah (Ta’ala).  Hadrat Aayisha (Radhi Allahu Anha) says, “We the family of Muhammad (ﷺ) used to spend two (whole) months in which we (did not need to) kindle the fire as (we had nothing to cook); we had only dates and water (to fill our bellies).” [Bukhari & Muslim]   * Enduring hardships caused by people leads to perfection:   Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said:

«الْمُسْلِمُ إِذَا كَانَ مُخَالِطًا النَّاسَ وَيَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ الْمُسْلِمِ الَّذِي لَا يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ وَلَا يَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُم» [ترمذي]

Translation: “If a Muslim mixes with people and endures the hardship they cause then he is better than the Muslim who does not mix with people and so does not endure the hardship they cause.” [Tirmizi ]   That which urges for having patience: * The perception that worldly life is of few days. It will not last forever. * The perception that human being is but possession of Allah and will return only to Him. * Complete faith that Allah will reward the best to the patient.  Allah (Ta’ala) says:

« وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّ الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا أَجْرَهُمْ بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ (96) » [النحل:96]

Translation of Meaning: “And verily We shall pay those who are steadfast a recompense in proportion to the best of what they used to do.” [An-Nahl:96]   * Complete faith that Allah’s help is emminent. There is always easiness after every difficulty and well-being after hardships. Allah (Ta’ala) says:

« فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْراً (5) إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْراً (6) » [الانشراح: 5-6]

Translation of Meaning: “But lo! with hardship goeth ease, Lo! with hardship goeth ease.” [Al-Insherah: 5-6]   * Seeking Allah’s help and His refuge all the time: . Always have patience with the sense that Allah is with us; we are under His watch and He is not negligent towards us. Allah (Ta’ala) says:

« وَاصْبِرُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ » [الأنفال:46]

Translation of Meaning: “And be steadfast! Lo! Allah is with the steadfast.” [Al-Anfal:46] * Following the footsteps of people of patience, especially the prophets, and determination. * Firm faith in destiny; that both good and bad destinies are from Allah. Allah says:

« مَا أَصَابَ مِنْ مُصِيبَةٍ فِي الأَرْضِ وَلا فِي أَنْفُسِكُمْ إِلاَّ فِي كِتَابٍ مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ نَبْرَأَهَا إِنَّ ذَلِكَ عَلَى اللَّهِ يَسِيرٌ (22) لِكَيْلا تَأْسَوْا عَلَى مَا فَاتَكُمْ وَلا تَفْرَحُوا بِمَا آتَاكُمْ (23)  » [الحديد: 22-23]

Translation of Meaning: “Naught of disaster befalleth in the earth or in yourselves but it is in a Book before we bring it into being − Lo! that is easy for Allah − That ye grieve not for the sake of that which hath escaped you, nor yet exult because of that which hath been given.” [Al-Hadeed: 22-23]   Human being should avoid the situations of hurriedness, anger, extreme sadness, sense of deprivation etc. and have an eye over the mercy of Allah.

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